Wednesday, November 22, 2023

How to check on whether society is actually falling apart

 Having posted nothing here for around seven years, I'm getting back to it. 


These days, lots of people seem to be acting as if society is falling apart -- like the System is breaking down. Americans are driving fast, ditching school, taking their own lives, dying of drug overdose, and generally treating each other badly at a greater rate than at any other time in our history. The COVID-19 pandemic gets a lot of blame for these behaviors, but in many cases the trends were apparent well before that virus arrived. It's as if people perceive that our world is regressing toward anarchy -- as if the old ways won't serve us any more, so we must now grab all the gratification, resources, and attention we can hold onto, before our meaningless lives burn out, or the bad guys come to enslave us, whichever comes first. 

So I like to look around for clues that the System is not actually falling apart. Yesterday, the garbage truck came to my house right on schedule to hoist my garbage roll-cart high in the air, flip it over, collect its contents, and place it back down on the street. It was satisfying and reassuring to see this commonplace technological marvel, which goes on thousands of times all over town each week. If it should ever happen that several weeks go by without garbage collection -- which does sometimes happen in some cities -- I'll begin to worry about the System, but so far it hasn't been a problem around here.

Another thing I like to look at is the worldwide flow of aircraft, which you can see on the website FlightRadar24. Every day, almost everywhere on Earth, thousands of airplanes are flying around the clock, constantly shipping people and goods among the nations of the world. 

Air traffic across the north Atlantic on the evening of 10 August 2023
(from FlightRadar24)
 
True, if you're worried about climate change, you may see all this air traffic as one more sign of an impending calamity, since it signifies that a huge amount of carbon dioxide exhaust from the combustion of jet fuel is being unloaded into the atmosphere. But I'm looking for technological and policy fixes to avoid climate catastrophes on a scale that would collapse society. I'd prefer to think about the vast array of interlocking networks that allow the continuous flow of air traffic around Planet Earth -- the training organizations that prepare the world's pilots, flight crews, mechanics, air traffic controllers, and technicians to operate the technology they are responsible for; the agencies and airlines that employ them, schedule their work, schedule the flights, sell the tickets, purchase and maintain the aircraft, handle passengers' baggage without losing too much of it, and regulate the system; the industries that manufacture the aircraft, radar, and navigation systems, build the airports and runways, supply your next flight with fuel, food, and beverage, and empty the waste from the airplane lavatories; the ground transportation networks that move all this stuff, as well as passengers, to and from the airports; the communication systems that let all these parts interact, and let you log in to the on-board wifi; the financial systems that allow goods, services, aircraft, and facilities to be purchased and everyone to be paid; and the insurance networks that help to spread and thus mitigate the risk of systemic, mechanical, and economic mishap.

It's all working, mostly, and most of the time. At least, it was working just now when I checked FlightRadar24. The next time you find yourself despairing over the state of society, take a look at FlightRadar24, or maybe FlightStats, and see if flight SAS935 is en route from Copenhagen to San Francisco, just for example. Or do a web search and see if there are any flights from Houston to Mumbai, as another example. Also, see if you have water coming out of your kitchen tap when you open it, and see if the kitchen lights come on when you flip the switch. If the System passes all of these tests, maybe you can breathe a little easier.




Tuesday, August 1, 2017

late summer

A lot has changed since my last post; for starters, our family has grown! Not like, that, though... We have Larissa living with us, from Brazil. She is our au pair and we looovvvvee having her here! She came with us to California at the end of July (Evan's cousin was getting married).

Larissa and Sibyl
The girls' personalities are so very different. Iris was interested in collecting shells and not so much in the water (too cold). Sibyl loved the waves and wanted to chase seagulls.

Waves for Sibyl, shells for Iris
 We visited the Birch Aquarium, which was just the right size. Both girls had fun and we were done in about an hour.
Sharks at the aquarium
We spent some time with Evan's grandparents and Donna showed us this beautiful quilt she made in honor of Beatrice Hogle. Sibyl's middle name is Beatrice, after this great grandmother.
 




As for earlier in the summer -- Iris has been hanging out with Eliza a lot! Iris was in a morning summer camp for two days a week and loved that. Her health has been pretty good all year -- no hospital stays since early February.




Sibyl is growing up so fast. She loves to swing and she doesn't fit in her onesie I used for monthly photos. She does seem to have a slightly smaller belly, though... 

All things Sibyl loves: racoon, swinging, and the purple jacket
July - 18 months old





April - 15 months old
As for me, I started a new job in late April and graduated in May! I really enjoy my new job and I have been taking the light rail to work recently. Evan has been hiking a lot of 14rs and my new interest are Bodypump classes at the gym.

Sunday, March 26, 2017

14 months

This post might hold the record for the most number of photos. Sibyl is 14 months old and these girls are making me laugh more and more. I've always enjoyed being a mother, but now that I'm done with my PhD I have more time to just sit be with these girls. 

Sibyl loves to dance and wiggle and her name for Iris is "Rara." 

 

Iris has started asking very complex questions. Yesterday in the car she asked me how we know that we are alive. Her grammar was off but that was the question! I told her that I know I'm alive because I feel pain and love.  


Here is a 10 minute video of her talking about wanting to be a doctor who can help kids. 





Other things we've been up to: Sibyl came to book club with me, Iris and I went to the botanic gardens on St. Patrick's Day, and we had our first family bike ride.
Big hug

St. Patrick's day cupcake (it was not as good as it looked)

Sibyl's first bike ride

This is a typical morning for us. I'm brushing Iris's teeth add Sibyl is hanging on my leg.

Typical morning 



Tuesday, February 21, 2017

13 months

Sibyl is 13 months old! She is a handful now that she is mobile. She gets into everything and most of the time only wants to read books. She says "Mama" almost exclusively, it seems. She also signs "more," "please," and "all done." And she has a great sense of humor.



I left this past Monday for Pennsylvania so I could defend my dissertation. I was anxious about flying into State College so I gave myself an extra day, just in case it snowed. I rehearsed the presentation several times on Tuesday and wandered the town reliving fond memories. It has all come and gone so quickly, compared to the years of writing and preparing data! The actual defense was fun, in a manner of speaking. I flew home Wednesday evening, after defending in the morning.

My mom helped Evan with the girls while I was gone and she spent a lot of time explaining to Iris about the PhD and the dissertation. So when I talked to Iris on Thursday morning she said, "I'm so proud of you, Mommy, that you got your PhD!" Granddad sent me flowers and my boss got me some champagne. I still don't quite feel like I'm done -- especially since I do have some revisions to make.

Flowers from Granddad 
 Iris is doing well -- she has finally recovered from her pneumonia and is SO full of energy.

Tuesday, January 24, 2017

2016 retrospective

I mean, where to I even begin to look back on 2016? I am not sure I can even put words to how hard it was.


My great joy from the year is that Sibyl was born and showed us her sweet growing self. She learned how to show us her tongue on Saturday, the same day as the Women's march.




What a great way to begin 2017. The march, I mean, but also Sibyl's tongue. I hadn't planned to go to the march, mostly because I am afraid of being shot. Seeing how huge the turnout was all over the world made me wish to be at the march in Denver, though. Instead I took Sibyl to the pediatrician for an urgent care visit. She had been up the entire previous night coughing and with a high fever. The poor baby. Iris had a 3-hour nap on Saturday, I assume she was fighting the same germs.


Fever nap
Three-hour nap

I am scheduled to go to San Francisco this week, two nights away. Just to make sure that I'll feel terrible leaving, Evan managed to incapacitate himself and will certainly need surgery. My dad is here for a meeting on Tuesday and will stay to help.

Knee injury. Will need surgery.

Iris started a new dance class on Sunday. Watching these girls grow makes my heart burst.



My hopes for 2017 are all about reconnecting with my "self" and my "selfhood." Evan gave me a series of six massages for Christmas, one of which I have used already. It would be nice to begin a regular exercise regime and meditation practice. Iris has started listening to a mindfulness for kids cd every night so one easy way to begin is to listen to some part of that with her. She listens to Sitting Still Like a Frog. 



Oh, and I'm defending my dissertation February 15. I can't believe that is happening. I started the PhD program in 2010. What a long road it's been.




Saturday, December 31, 2016

nine, ten, eleven months

The end of the year has gotten away from me. Sibyl is now 11 1/2 months and is almost running in her own baby way. She started walking around 10 months old, about the same time as Iris but maybe a week or two earlier. She is babbling a lot and says babble-y things that sound like "What's that?" and "All done."


October, 9 months

November, 10 months
December, 11 months

My mom moved to Ft. Collins (hooray!) and we drove up to visit a few months ago. On the way home we had to make an emergency potty stop so we unexpectedly had our first family trip to McDonald's.


Horsetooth Reservoir


First McDonald's outing

We had a short hospital stay in October for Iris. She had adenovirus along with some other viruses. Treatment for respiratory illness consists of pulmozyme (usually given to cystic fibrosis patients), a vest that jiggles her around, and regular deep suctioning and nasal aspiration.
Sister visits



Sister visits


She was able to get home by Halloween and even go to the dress up day at school. Iris was a koala, which was the same costume she wore as last year. At first she said she wanted to be a blue ghost but then kept changing her mind so I floated the idea of wearing a koala costume and she was totally on board with it.

"Koalas eat you-ka-lick-tus"

Doggie

We went trick-or-treating around the block with the Beckers, who managed to have a theme for the whole family: Pokemon Go. Iris loved trick-or-treating and then forgot about the candy she had gathered by the next day.

The first pumpkin I've carved in years

The Beckers are Pokemon Go themed

Pokemon Go characters









Tuesday, October 4, 2016

eight months

After a couple months of mostly no sickness, we three girls have all come down with some stomach bug and Sibyl has an added cold. We haven't been sleeping well, partly because Sibyl is teething and partly because I haven't encouraged good fall asleep habits for her. I can't bring myself to let her cry it out.

She is pulling herself up and is ready to walk any day. She has 4 teeth and is about to get some new ones. She is babbling a ton and seems to say a version of "all done" when she's all done. I'm less militant about using sign language with her (like I did with Iris) but they also do it at school so I'm hoping that she'll start using signs for "milk" and "more" soon. She loves to drink water from a glass.

As for Iris, our neighbors passed down a strider earlier this summer and she loves to ride it. She also started a creative movement dance class earlier in September. They mostly jump around to songs and then learn one or two ballet positions. At the end of the class they curtsey.



We went to our first family volleyball game earlier in the month. The University of Denver has a varsity team. They played Georgetown (and DU won). I miss playing volleyball a lot. Someday in the near future I hope to start playing in a club. (I also hope to start having regular family sing alongs and start playing guitar/piano regularly and... the list goes on.)



Iris is supposed to finally get her routine brain (and aorta) MRI the first week in October. We've had to reschedule it a million times this year due to illness, snow, and misunderstandings on the part of the schedulers.